5.) Online Chatrooms
Before meeting the stranger in person, we can take part in a trial run of online chat. Walster (1996) stated that online connections may be hyper personal, which means that we are except more to reveal details about ourselves, and we do this more quickly on the internet. According to the research that has been done on this, we as humans are more comfortable with people more and more they reveal to us, and evidently we are more inclined to like those who we reveal ourselves to. Because of the fact that we disclose much more and require others to disclose more to us in an open online atmosphere, the mental mirage of actually liking someone more can actually be what’s going on. What happens because of this is that we get our hopes up before we even meet the person, and 9 times out of 10, we end up being disappointed in the end.
4.) Online is Not A Quick Way
People try online dating sites for one specific reason, which is to engage romantically with other people. This being said, we always need to have some sort of expectation or trust that will in fact be the end result, especially if we are paying for the service. Then the users not only spend their savings signing up for online dating sites, but they also spend a large amount of time on this very notion. It could be the possibility that the users might just give in and never use the app again. After two months of not meeting someone, it gets frustrating.
There is now a great amount of evidence that people readily and quite falsely advertise themselves on these online dating sites. People use fake features like the way they look, their age, their weight, financial status and what they’re into.
During face to face conversations, we create mental impressions of others depending on their general nature and other hidden features in how they are. As a person, the more details with which we are given, the simpler it is to form a judgement of others. But, dating profiles can only present us with pre-generated details about who we match with and who we do not match with which means that we are not seeing the whole person and they are not seeing the whole person of us.
Humans make stupid decisions. It’s in our nature. Dating sites on the internet provide us with a bountiful palate of potential date options. Even more so, we sign up to various sites all at once, most of the time; and with this the list of options increases. The joy in this may at first seem appealing, but in reality when faced with making decisions about which object to pick from a large number, we are more liable to make irrational decisions. This is because we call upon different and sometimes logical decision making skills when picking from a large amount than when we choose on a real life basis.
If you want to hear an experience on why online dating doesn’t work, watch the video below!